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RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:The power of Noiw

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Wow, I feel like I fall between all of you.I always said "it's like worrying about the weather" so taught myself to only worry about things that I could do something about.That from a 69 year old.

catchascatchcan wrote: Very well put, and thank you.

Kronyboy wrote:

catchascatchcan wrote: Personally I'm a fan of worrying.  It's been the driving force that has gotten me to where I am.  My most despised expression in this world is 'it is what it is'.  If I here someone utter that phrase I typically am of the opinion that they are a going nowhere loser (excuse the expression).  Far too many hide behind the fact that life comes by people honestly, and that much of it isn't worth worrying about because it's a predetermined path that they're walking.  Life is what you make it, and accepting that things are as they are is an admission of an inablity to change what needs altering.  People need to take ownership and carve out a life that they want and deserve.  The alternative is an attitude that I cannot accept personally.  Work hard, take pride, do what's required.  Worrying is healthy, and it drives people to get an education, secure employment, prepare their kids for the future etc.  I personally embrace it.  As a matter of consequence, I no longer need to worry too much, and I'm only 40.  As a parent of many young kids though, I still do steadily!  GLTA

Newtrader1982 wrote: While I agree with the sentiment it's easy to just say forget the past and don't worry about the future but much harder to execute in real life. Watch a show like hoarders or intervention or my 500lb life or talk to someone with ptsd. Then just say to them hey just forget your past and don't worry about your future and walk away and see how effective that is. Past experiences literally form you into the person you are today you can't just erase them they are in your mind. Also people who suffer from depression may have a chemical imbalance in their brain or have suffered traumatic experiences in the past, it's not as easy as just forget your past and don't worry about your future.

tamaracktop wrote: Eckhart Tolle
On of the primary causes of depression is ruminating about things that have happened in your past.
The primary cause of anxiety is worrying what will happen in the future.
There's nothing you can do about the past.
It's history.
Shed the burden of it.
It's not worth carrying.

The future will come when it comes.
Why worry about something that hasn't happened yet, and might not even happen?

Live in the present moment.
It's called mindfullness.

You're probably just lying in bed right now.
That's all you're doing.
You have nothing to worry about when you're just lying in bed.

Forget the past and don't worry about the future and you will get rid of depression and anxiety.
Live in the present moment.
You'll feel weightless 

 

 

I appreciate the thoughtfulness but I think you're missing the point and unending wisdom of accepting things are the way they are. It doesn't mean you can't do anything about it, rather it is an exercise in mindfulness, to be aware of your contributions to the dynamics you've built and the world you've moulded for yourself. Some things are out of your control. Some things are in your control. Learning the distinction between the two and finding peace with uncontrollable factors is where the phrase finds its footing. Something for you to meditate on. 

 

This is coming from a 29 year old you was just engaged 3 short weeks ago, who's partner no longer wants to have children or be married. It is what it is ;)